Comments on: When did bridal showers and bachelorette parties become entitlements? http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/ Bridal Help for the Big Day Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:53:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Lydia http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-515 Lydia Sat, 23 Aug 2008 07:56:27 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-515 They aren't, sounds like you just have a bridezilla friend. It's just being immature and selfish. They aren’t, sounds like you just have a bridezilla friend. It’s just being immature and selfish.

]]> By: Carrie O'Labrador http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-514 Carrie O'Labrador Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:26:31 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-514 You know... weddings are out of control these days. Being a bridezilla used to be a bad thing. Then it was a funny thing. Then it was something to be proud of. I think what has happened is that weddings are such a big business. Everyone makes a lot of money, so they tell the bride how special they are, and that they deserve everything they want, and if anyone protests, burn them at the stake. So brides make their wedding like the best day of their life. I want to have a nice wedding, but if that's the best day of my life, I might as well die the next day. I don't want it to be all downhill from there! Unfortunately, a bridesmaid's current job description is: slave. You have to spend TONS of money, but that's not even the worst part. You have to do everything the bride says or she will think you're "not a good friend," or "you don't care about me." It's such a load of B.S. I think all you can do is try to get through it. You can try to talk to the bride, but she probably won't listen right now. After the wedding she will return to normal, but right now... don't expect her to be logical or rational. If you push her to change her ways, be ready for her to pitch a fit, and it might ruin your friendship. My advice is just to try to make it through alive. You know… weddings are out of control these days. Being a bridezilla used to be a bad thing. Then it was a funny thing. Then it was something to be proud of.

I think what has happened is that weddings are such a big business. Everyone makes a lot of money, so they tell the bride how special they are, and that they deserve everything they want, and if anyone protests, burn them at the stake. So brides make their wedding like the best day of their life. I want to have a nice wedding, but if that’s the best day of my life, I might as well die the next day. I don’t want it to be all downhill from there!

Unfortunately, a bridesmaid’s current job description is: slave. You have to spend TONS of money, but that’s not even the worst part. You have to do everything the bride says or she will think you’re “not a good friend,” or “you don’t care about me.” It’s such a load of B.S.

I think all you can do is try to get through it. You can try to talk to the bride, but she probably won’t listen right now. After the wedding she will return to normal, but right now… don’t expect her to be logical or rational. If you push her to change her ways, be ready for her to pitch a fit, and it might ruin your friendship. My advice is just to try to make it through alive.

]]> By: kill_yr_television http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-513 kill_yr_television Mon, 18 Aug 2008 13:57:09 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-513 You bridesmaids need to approach Miss Thang as a group and tell her to settle down or she won't get a bachelorette party at all. Give her specific limits on how much of YOUR time and money she may expend. Also remind her that very finicky people who expect things to be done in a very particular way -- had better do it themselves. When other people do things for you, you take what you get and are darn lucky to get it. Truly, brides and attendants need to start agreeing on this sort of thing in advance, before anyone agrees to accept the "honor" of being a bridesmaid. You bridesmaids need to approach Miss Thang as a group and tell her to settle down or she won’t get a bachelorette party at all. Give her specific limits on how much of YOUR time and money she may expend. Also remind her that very finicky people who expect things to be done in a very particular way — had better do it themselves. When other people do things for you, you take what you get and are darn lucky to get it.

Truly, brides and attendants need to start agreeing on this sort of thing in advance, before anyone agrees to accept the “honor” of being a bridesmaid.

]]> By: bluegirl6 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-512 bluegirl6 Sat, 16 Aug 2008 14:43:36 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-512 Wow. She is being a spoilt brat. Bridezilla alert. Someone needs to sit her down and tell her how it is. I wouldnt even host a shower for a bride like this. I never knew being a bridesmaid was such a pain in the butt!!! I am not having any stupid "parties" like this. Good luck to you, but I honestly think she needs someone to give her a wake up call. Wow. She is being a spoilt brat. Bridezilla alert.
Someone needs to sit her down and tell her how it
is. I wouldnt even host a shower for a bride like this.
I never knew being a bridesmaid was such a pain
in the butt!!!

I am not having any stupid “parties” like this.
Good luck to you, but I honestly think she needs
someone to give her a wake up call.

]]> By: brneyedgirl http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-511 brneyedgirl Thu, 14 Aug 2008 23:29:50 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-511 I would think that with every thing else she has to worry about she wouldn't want to worry about this!!! I would think that with every thing else she has to worry about she wouldn’t want to worry about this!!!

]]> By: kaina01 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-510 kaina01 Tue, 12 Aug 2008 13:47:53 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-510 I agree that the bridal party should be able to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party. I think your friend is being a bridezilla! Hopefully for you- this bride will only get married once! That said- the bridal party can take her suggestions and it's up to you guys whether or not you change her itinerary. Or you guys can rebel and do nothing- just let her plan everything and make the silly shirt with catchy phrases about her. Either way- Good Luck! I hope this bride realizes what great friends she has for supporting her regardless of how she is acting! I agree that the bridal party should be able to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party. I think your friend is being a bridezilla!

Hopefully for you- this bride will only get married once!

That said- the bridal party can take her suggestions and it’s up to you guys whether or not you change her itinerary. Or you guys can rebel and do nothing- just let her plan everything and make the silly shirt with catchy phrases about her.

Either way- Good Luck! I hope this bride realizes what great friends she has for supporting her regardless of how she is acting!

]]> By: Adrienne L http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-509 Adrienne L Mon, 11 Aug 2008 07:48:55 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-509 you are absolutely correct, the bride is wrong. it is up to the bridal party, she sounds a bit controlling and a wk before xmas? she sounds kind of selfish. i'm sure bridal party has their own plans running around getting things done for xmas. you are absolutely correct, the bride is wrong. it is up to the bridal party, she sounds a bit controlling and a wk before xmas? she sounds kind of selfish. i’m sure bridal party has their own plans running around getting things done for xmas.

]]> By: Alex http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-508 Alex Sat, 09 Aug 2008 15:19:47 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-508 She seems rather ungrateful. If I were you I'd have quit by now. She seems rather ungrateful. If I were you I’d have quit by now.

]]> By: luvnlife http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-507 luvnlife Sat, 09 Aug 2008 01:26:51 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-507 Your friend is acting very spoiled and ungrateful. I agree with the bride letting the bridal party know what she would be interested in(If they aren't into drinking and partying of course they aren't going to enjoy a night in the club), but when it comes to these types of events...they are not for her to plan. The wedding is her planning and the parties and showers are yours, if you choose to give your friend one. If I were in your choose, I'd plan something with the other girls that you think she would like, maybe incorporating some of the things she has suggested. Also, who has a wedding shower a year before there actually getting married. Defiantly tacky. What if they end up breaking off the engagement. Defiantly wait until a month or so before the wedding to do the shower, and if the week before Christmas is inconvenient move that party too. Your friend is acting very spoiled and ungrateful. I agree with the bride letting the bridal party know what she would be interested in(If they aren’t into drinking and partying of course they aren’t going to enjoy a night in the club), but when it comes to these types of events…they are not for her to plan. The wedding is her planning and the parties and showers are yours, if you choose to give your friend one. If I were in your choose, I’d plan something with the other girls that you think she would like, maybe incorporating some of the things she has suggested. Also, who has a wedding shower a year before there actually getting married. Defiantly tacky. What if they end up breaking off the engagement. Defiantly wait until a month or so before the wedding to do the shower, and if the week before Christmas is inconvenient move that party too.

]]> By: Dave http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/comment-page-1/#comment-506 Dave Fri, 08 Aug 2008 15:07:20 +0000 http://bridalproguide.com/when-did-bridal-showers-and-bachelorette-parties-become-entitlements/156/#comment-506 Bridezilla has gone well beyond the bounds of good taste, and you're right to feel put off by her demands. If someone asks what she wants, she should by all means give some pointers...otherwise, she should graciously accept showers/parties for the loving UNREQUIRED gestures they are. I will give you super turbo special Dave extra bonus props if you and the other bridal party members go see her AS A GROUP in shirts just like the "catchy phrase" ones she demanded, but with the following printed on them: "WE QUIT" P.S. Thank you for this story, I am even more grateful for my sane, unselfish, wonderful wife. Bridezilla has gone well beyond the bounds of good taste, and you’re right to feel put off by her demands. If someone asks what she wants, she should by all means give some pointers…otherwise, she should graciously accept showers/parties for the loving UNREQUIRED gestures they are.

I will give you super turbo special Dave extra bonus props if you and the other bridal party members go see her AS A GROUP in shirts just like the “catchy phrase” ones she demanded, but with the following printed on them:

“WE QUIT”

P.S. Thank you for this story, I am even more grateful for my sane, unselfish, wonderful wife.

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