Comments on: What is proper etiquette in giving bridal shower and wedding gifts?

By: Assaf K

Assaf K — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 11:14:12 +0000

Hi,

A handmade portrait (Oil or other mediums) from a photo that you choose can be a very personal and unique gift.

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I think you will like it and more important the gift receiver will love it!

Good luck

By: Etiquette Gal

Etiquette Gal — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 09:19:09 +0000

By etiquette, the ONLY time in life that a gift is required is if you choose to attend a shower, then you must bring to the shower a physical gift (not money or gift certificates), and it’s usually a smaller gift or something handmade.

Wedding gifts are NOT obligatory. People give one only if they want to and can afford to.

That is not only my opinion, but the opinion of nationally recognized etiquette authority Judith Martin!

By: JenV

JenV — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 18:39:19 +0000

Just one gift will suffice. It is impolite to send someone an invitation to a bridal shower who will not be receiving an invitation to the wedding, therefore, it is like asking them to gift twice.

However, if there is a bridal shower, a bachelorette party or lingerie party and a wedding, then I would gift twice - for the bachelorette or lingerie party, and for the bridal shower or the wedding.

By: nanny

nanny — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 12:16:13 +0000

Two gifts - one for the shower and one for the wedding. It’s only on Answers that I have recently read of people thinking that if they give a bridal shower gift that they don’t give a wedding gift. Don’t know where they got that from! Be nice, and give gifts for both, even if they didn’t for you.

By: max333

max333 — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 21:10:37 +0000

Bridal shower is the time they give gifts and don’t need to give on the wedding. It covers the wedding. It is meant for the wedding.

By: cin_ann_43

cin_ann_43 — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 04:53:45 +0000

They should of given gifts for both. Don’t stoop to their level. Do the right thing and give gifts for both.

By: Justice

Justice — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 00:42:56 +0000

They are two different ocassions. Generally, the bridal shower gift is something specifically for the bride (even if her husband does benefit from it). The wedding gift is for the couple. Maybe your friends are running short on cash or have no clue how these things are supposed to work. Anyway, keep doing what you’ve been doing. There are many blessings in store for you as you appear to be an unselfish person.

By: BECKBY

BECKBY — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 06:46:51 +0000

Invitations to the bridal shower are not always the same as to the wedding. You ask the closest people to you to the shower.All relatives,co-workers of bride,groom, both parents,classmates, family of the wedding party,etc, and friends of everyone to the wedding.Those people not invited to the shower usually give a beautifully wrapped gift or an envelope with cash or check in it at the wedding. There can also be a personal bride shower for the very best girl friends, sisters,bridal party, and sometimes the mother’s where the guests bring lingerie and honeymoon type extras.You can be invited to all three but you do not have to bring a gift to all three unless it doesn’t hurt you financially or if you spend less on 2 or 3 gifts but add up to what you would spend on one great gift. Just being at each celebration is enough and only give one gift for the whole wedding.Best wishes and don’t get caught up in the money part of celebrating.A gift from the heart and attendance should never be overlooked as options and be gratefully appreciated..

By: ebsharer

ebsharer — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 21:43:41 +0000

Personally I give at both. I have always seen the bridal shower as a gift for the woman and the wedding as a gift for the couple. Because of them giving one present you could either buy 2 cheap presents or give one present. If your only giving one I would recommend giving it at the bridal shower because presents are opened there. And giving just a card at the wedding just to acknowledge that you were there. Good luck!

By: nabdullah2001

nabdullah2001 — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 08:06:29 +0000

Usually a bridal shower consists of the bride receiving gifts for her trousseau which is lingerie and clothing items. The wedding gifts is usually stuff to put in the home since you were a newlywed yourself and you got mostly items for the home and a wishing well. You don’t have to, but it’s up to you whether you give a gift or not. It’s not a requirement it’s a matter of personal choice.