Comments on: Is it bad etiquette to do a pot luck bridal shower?

By: lost2day

lost2day — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 23:59:32 +0000

The person who is planning the bridal shower is the one who provides the food and drinks. It`s kind of rude to throw a pot luck for a shower. The guests have to provide a gift, why food?

By: Classy Granny

Classy Granny — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 12:03:40 +0000

That sounds like a great idea to me. You could provide the disposable plates, cups and silverware and the beverages. That way the guest only have to bring their dish.

By: cactusone

cactusone — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 02:54:09 +0000

sounds cheap
skip that idea

By: PinkLove22

PinkLove22 — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 20:40:39 +0000

No, potluck is never appropriate. I also think it’s tacky. If you are hosting people at a party, you should pay for all their food and drink.

By: raven

raven — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 15:25:26 +0000

You and the other planners should provide all the food.

By: K P

K P — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 02:47:15 +0000

You should do whatever you feel is right in the situation. You know the bride and the families involved. Do you think anyone in the family or the bride would be offended by this??

Just remember that people are bringing presents to the shower, and if you expect them to bring food, you shouldn’t expect them to bring presents as well.

The best way to alleviate the pressure from yourself is to have a potluck, but not with the guests, rather with the bridal party and close family of the bride. They won’t mind helping with the shower AND pitching in with the food. This way it’s easier on you (financially and physically) and the family helps out too.

Some people might be offended if they feel like they “have” to bring food AND a present.

By: Violet

Violet — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 05:09:40 +0000

I think that if you’re all friends, it might be a fun way to get together and share recipes. If the guests don’t know each other, though, it might be uncomfortable.

By: aivilo

aivilo — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 19:23:46 +0000

Please do not do a pot luck bridal shower. If the people in the group want to do all the food preparation, great, but please do not ask the guests to bring a dish. They are already bringing a gift for the bride.

It isn’t appropriate and it is tacky. Would you want to go to a pot luck wedding?

By: Torey H

Torey H — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 05:47:35 +0000

yes its bad etiquette to ask the guest to bring something to the party unless they are the ones helping plan the party. this bridal shower is a gift to your friend, if you and the other ladies who are planning the party want to split the cooking duties fine but don’t ask the other guest to bring food to me that’s low class.

By: Loving_Heart

Loving_Heart — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:59:54 +0000

Try to avoid superstitious stuff.