Is it appropriate on a bridal shower invitation to request gift receipts?
KayDee asked:
I am having a bridal shower for my younger sister. She asked me to include on the shower invitation a request for gift receipts with gifts, so that she can return any duplicates etc. I feel that is tacky, but is this common or acceptable?
I am having a bridal shower for my younger sister. She asked me to include on the shower invitation a request for gift receipts with gifts, so that she can return any duplicates etc. I feel that is tacky, but is this common or acceptable?
I wouldn’t do it personally.
Absolutely tacky. It implies she won’t be satisfied with whatever people select for her.
Part of being a woman old enough to marry is accepting disappointing gifts graciously. Rather than exchanging, she should consider donating (and getting the tax write-off) brand new items she doesn’t want which someone else might b thrilled to have.
You could offer to be her go-between, seeking receipts if there are duplicates. (Usually there aren’t.)
I do believe it is acceptable. Gift registeries are tacky as well but they’re common. Code of conduct bends for weddings/showers!
Just a note- I see most people are telling you no way. Let me encourage you to do it as your sis wants- I’m sure this is more common than you think.
AND if there was a duplicate of a gift I gave and I was the one asked for the receipt I would feel burned that you were choosing to return mine and keep the other’s. I would feel like well I shouldn’t have taken the time or money for you. THAT idea is tacky to single people out.
No, but any decent gift giver gives the gift receipt to the recipient. I LOVE gift receipts because it takes the guess work and pressure out of it.
Don’t do that! These days when you buy something you usually get a gift receipt anyways so most people include that with the gift.
Sorry, it’s not appropriate. You’re right: the idea is tacky. not common, and unacceptable to anyone with good manners.
If people follow closely on her registry there would be a low risk of duplicates.
It doesn’t seem appropriate to request gift receipts. May be interpreted as though she needs them in case she doesn’t like your gift she can return it. It might discourage people from wanting to purchase any gifts for her.
i would say keep the box un opened and i am sure with the bar code the store will know.i always stick it in the bag and tell the person,please feel free to exchange if you do not like it!
hi you
i would not ask for gifts in the first place and to ask for a receipts is a no no
It is absolutely tacky and unacceptable. Tell her no.
I can understand your sister’s concern - duplicates, wrong color/size/make etc. can be a real bother.
However, to actually request a gift receipt - is tantamount to asking for the gift from the get-go - which is completely and utterly inappropriate.
It’s tacky. I wouldn’t do it - but she’s your sister.
Sounds pretty tacky. Gifts are always optional, not required.
I hope you refused to do that. That is not only inappropriate, its insulting, and thoughtless to the would be guests. I can promise you that if I received an invitation with that request, I would not attend. I’ll bet I wouldn’t be the only no show.
NO NO NO NO NO.
People spend time, effort and thought choosing presents. To more or less tell them at the outset that their time and thought means NOTHING is an out and out insult and might well lead to a drastic reduction of the population at your shower.
I hope that YOU will give your sister an etiquette book - I hate to think of the manners she’ll teach her kid.
It’s tacky.