Comments on: I have been married before but this is my fiancees first marriage.do I have to have a bridal shower?

By: ME

ME — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 12:19:04 +0000

Its your choice, but if its his first wedding then i think yes you should have one- his mom and family would probably want to do it for you. Make the process of the marriage special for him too!

Dont think of your past… focus on your future!

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 18:50:07 +0000

Since you have been married before, I would say that you probably shouldn’t have a bridal shower. It doesn’t matter that it’s his first wedding because the shower is for the bride, not the groom. However, if his mother or sister or someone on his side plans one for you, you should be gracious and go along with it.

By: Christine

Christine — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 10:24:04 +0000

What does she want? She and her family might have been really looking forwards to doing the shower for you guys.

I’d recommend trying to come to a compromise with your fiancee. If she isn’t that insistent on you two having a shower with her family then tell whoever is offering to host the shower that you’d really rather not have one. Don’t make a scene though. If it’s that important to the family, then be gracious and accept it.

By: Drake's Mommy

Drake's Mommy — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 16:35:11 +0000

That’s your decision. If you don’t feel comfortable having one, then ask them to please drop it. If you want one, then do it.

By: Holly

Holly — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 18:41:39 +0000

I didn’t have a bridal shower when I got married 3 years ago - I was 27 and didn’t want one; I remember being a little girl and dragged to bridal showers, I never enjoyed them, never understood the point of them - especially since my husband and I had everything we needed. So I skipped the event and all was fine; my husband’s side of the family was aghast at it, but they got over it. My mom was in total support of me and agreed; she’s never been a fan of bridal showers either.

Do what you want because at the end of the day, they will respect you more for it!

By: Sandy Ego

Sandy Ego — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 17:35:02 +0000

You don’t have to have anything you don’t want to have. I’ve been married 3 times and never had a bridal shower. Just tell your family you appreciate the thought, but you don’t want to do it.

By: My thoughts

My thoughts — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 23:01:47 +0000

Since the bridal shower is to make his family happy, accept the offer graciously and smile a lot.

By: YouWish25 is Ready 4 Christmas

YouWish25 is Ready 4 Christmas — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 17:21:26 +0000

If someone offers to throw you a shower, allow them too. But, if no one steps up, don’t make a big deal about it.

In a situation like this, your new in-laws might want to throw you a shower, because this is your Fi’s first marriage. They might want to do all the traditional parties and such. So, if they do offer, accept. It would be rude to say no to such a nice gesture.

By: renee9605

renee9605 — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 20:54:48 +0000

A wedding shower is designed to help the new couple get things for starting their home/life together. A bridal shower is a celebration for the bride. You’re not required to have either. In the case of the wedding shower, if you already have things you need for a home, it could be seen as just an opportunity for you to “cash in” on the wedding. As for the bridal shower, it is entirely up to you. Is it because you don’t feel like you NEED one, or do you just not want to bother or spend the time with the family? If you just don’t think you need one, perhaps an afternoon getting mani-pedi’s or have a tea party, just an opportunity to spend an afternoon together, without gifts or any of the lame games and such that go into a shower? If you just don’t want to spend time with the people, just don’t have one. Explain that this isn’t your first time and you just don’t think it’s appropriate to do it again, since you don’t need/want anything other than to be married to your fiance.

By: mrshowell06

mrshowell06 — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 13:26:50 +0000

Yes you can plan to have another bridal shower. My stepmum who was married once before my dad. When she was marrying my dad she had a bridal shower.